Sometimes I’m too consumed by love. I can’t eat, I can’t sleep and I can hardly remember to maintain my breathing.
This both sickens and disgusts me.
It seems like all the senses were created to to be an ally to the heart. To make one feel like a prince in the prime of passion.
Why is love such a sweet burden?
Scary: fearful thoughts of destruction leaves a heart heavy and a mind full.
Fantastic: a promise of a lifetime of passionate and endearing companionship makes a person giddy with excitement.
Painful: looking out for one’s pride leaves a gap between lovers filled with silent surrender.
Words are meant to be spoken but are never heard when in love. Words are meant to be spoken but are never said. Words need to emerge but stay buried. How can a person be himself when in love while suffering from the ailment of love?
Love hurts so damn bad. To be in love hurts, to be out of love hurts, to see love hurts; to hear of it, to speak of it and to reminisce about it hurts.
Go away but stay, sweet love. And
I’m going to say this and I know fully well I won’t be offending anyone who truly knows me and my intentions.
The true meaning of friendships often perplexes me and I wonder how one knows that he has what is defined as a “true friend”.
When I talk about a friend, I don’t mean the illusory entity that is a Facebook friend or anything in that regards which one has limited communication with; I mean a friend that asks about you, cares, and respects and adores you, as you do them.
What has happened to make keeping a friend so difficult, especially when one works so hard at it?
I would blame myself exclusively for this situation but I see everyone I care about suffer from the same fate. They end up alone, they end up uncared for and unloved.
Why has substance gone out of style? And why has it been replaced with fleeting kinship as opposed to a lasting tie and relation between two people or more?
Why is it that with the growing number of social media (which are admittedly founded with pecuniary goals hence uncaring for human relations), people find themselves surrounded by more and more people but feeling even more alone?
Why is it the less you work at keeping a friend, the more they are attracted to your indifferent nature and the more you are likely to keep them?
Damn the cursed human nature, which I’ll never be able to manipulate to my liking.
Damn it, damn it, damn it!
When your partner says, “I can’t live without you”, they are lying and they can. They choose not to.
Love is not rare, but a long-lasting loving relationship is. Love stays as long as you work hard to make it stay.
Time withers your integrity in the eyes of your partner. As time passes, the little pieces of you start chipping away and you must work hard to replace the shriveled pieces. Then, and only then, can love remain.
If a person has decided to make you their significant other, their other half, then they are missing a half and you should complete them or they will always be feeling incomplete.
When you have a bad day and let off some steam on your partner, take them in your arms afterwards. Kiss them and let them know you know they are not to blame. Tell them you appreciate them being there for you.
If your partner is feeling down or needy, give them what they want and ask for, not what you think they want; especially, if they do the same for you.
It’s not weak to show your lover you love them, but it’s damn weak not to.
I kissed you on your forehead.
I sneaked my hands to the buttons of your jeans.
I slid your pants off as I crawled between your legs on the floor.
I looked into your eyes, mirroring my excitment and passion.
"I love you," I said.
I woke up.
Why haven’t I written here in months?
Well, I thought it was because I wasn’t feeling and had nothing to write about but I realized I was feeling too much. It was quick and fluctuating malleably throughout the minutes of the day.
I couldn’t keep up, or rather I didn’t want to and I comfortably detached.
I no longer feel as strongly as I used to and it’s a blessing as feelings usually pass through me like a raggedy old knife. Each feeling is acerbic on my frail heart and leaves a nasty wound that scarcely heals.
It’s been an educative year. I learned a lot and mostly things I never thought I would learn or wanted to learn.
I discovered the shock that comes from finding corruption in the stems of your family and the fear of having someone trying to take over your life and death… literally.
I also partook in the merriment of the reunion of friends and family, and being thrust back in time with a single glance or word from them.
Of course, I didn’t miss being taught a lesson in love. Loss and love; the two are almost individually unidentifiable. They always seem to pair up and hit you where it hurts the most; in the heart.
Love gives but takes much more than it should. It solely delivers you the promise of companionship and support but it’s confoundedly difficult when you reach that stage of needing the aforementioned only to find out the promise is only just that.
An IOU with no “I”.
I learned things I wish I didn’t. And why? Because I’m sick of being taught lessons. I’ve toughened up with hard experiences throughout the years and softened right back to adapt to a different point in time.
But It seems a toughening is in order again and I’m going through the school of life once more.
It’s not optional. Like death, you can’t escape life. Life follows you to your grave and your grave follows you in your life. It’s a vicious entity, life, but we must strive and live on.
Strive and live.
I don’t mind it.
Most people think I do, and pity me for it, but I really don’t mind it.
It a blanket; it’s a cool, thick sheet of night blanketing me from whomever and whatever’s outside my window. I control the mise en scène in my room and when I’m finished I flick the light off drenching myself in a total charcoal-vision.
I’m free to lose my head, my thoughts and my body in the darkness. The shadows are there even without a light, and the shadow makes me move. It takes my hand and leads me, guiding me forward.
It hugs me tight, comforting me like an adopting parent with a confused child. But I don’t suffer when darkness looms. I’m comforted; I’m safe; I’m secure.
Whenever I stare at the light emitting from a light bulb, I challenge it for life and I vanquish it with the light switch.
But sometimes I flick the little light switch off, and it doesn’t work anymore.
The light, it ambushes me as it finally escapes the artificial electrical shield my light bulb created.
I was in a rush this morning to get some official papers translated and make it in time to make another appointment. I saw a McDonald’s across the street from where I was and it was serving breakfast. I saw it and said “Hell ya. It’s been a while since I had a McMuffin with a side of delicious hash browns.”
I found myself magnetically pulled. The taxi driver drove me to the restaurant, where I rushed in to the empty dining hall and made my order. It looked weirdly deserted even though it was operational.
I sat down to wait from my order, checking my phone to see if it was picking up a WiFi signal. It didn’t and I had to sit down and do nothing, except look around at my surroundings.
And then I saw it.
I had caught a glimpse of it a few times since I had walked through the restaurant’s door, but it hadn’t registered in my head. A Happy Meal’s toys’ display case.
It was like a I was shot with a gun fully-loaded with nostalgia.
I remembered that those little manufactured pieces of commercialism were the reason I dragged my parents to those fast food joints when I was a kid. I would study those displays and plan which pieces I would get; how and when I would go about collecting them and study the intrinsic value of each toy and make a careful analysis of the situation at hand. It was serious business back then.
I would also study the posters and see the life in each character as it posed enticingly to us children, drawing us in with their wide-eyed animated personality.
But no more of this now as an adult. I hardly even noticed the display, and it pains my lachrymose heart that that part of our lives never returns even though those emotions had reoccurred to my person one last time; meaning those feelings are still there but there’s no trigger to incite them.
Oh, how I long for those triggers. How I long for them.
My most cuspidal weapon is my written word, not my spoken word.
The words I speak are dull like an unsharpened sword and even in a fight they would save me none. No, my only sustenance is my written word.
I’m in a trance while they flow and when uninterrupted, they emerge just right.
And you know what?
My words have spoken to me. They have told me the secret I’ve been keeping, a secret I didn’t know I had.
They told me about my mate.
About the mate I longed for and continually looked for. The mate I would rush home to and would share every detail of my day with. The one whose waking moments were agony without me, just as mine were without him. The one whose heart would break when he saw my tears, as if he’s witnessing a rose destroyed by cascading lava. The mate whom I’ve dreamt about and whom the universe had promised to me as a reward for all the heartbreaks it had furnished me with. The mate who’s my best friend and my lover. Just me and he against the world, and not only me against the world any more.
To whom I am a diamond and he’s the ring to carry that stone.
Or maybe I knew all this all along and it was no big secret. But the words have finally emerged and the heart wants what it wants.
Yesterday I had my IELTS exams. It took 3 hours of testing but an overall 8 hours with all the unnecessary waiting, fingerprinting, photo-taking, and paper processing.
And then I had my speaking test. A middle-aged woman with a great accent and pronunciation told me to take a seat. It seemed pleasant enough. Although I was nervous, she put my mind at ease.
And we started talking and then the conversation took a weird turn, and it went a little something like this:
Examiner: would you look to someday move back home?
Me: I am home (thinking she meant my family’s house)
Examiner: no, would you like to someday move HOME?
Me: *pause* I’m sorry. Wh… What? Do you mean my family’s home?
Examiner: *creepy smile* would you like to someday move HOME?
Me: But I am home. In my family’s home here. I live with them.
Examiner: would you someday like to move back hoooome *hand gesture to indicate moving* (apparently that explained it)
Me: *thinking she means country* Oh, I am home right now. This is my home.
Examiner: *looks at me* would you someday like to move back home?
Me: I’m sorry, what are you talking about?
Examiner: moving on…
What we learned boys and girls from what’s happening in Egypt with Mubarak’s release and in the USA with Chelsea Manning’s imprisonment; those who have money, no matter how it was obtained, can do and get away with anything.
A disgrace to the human race, money and its wealthy owners has become the source of salvation and a get out of jail card to the terrorist of the world.
All I can say is… seriously…
For the past few weeks I feel like I have been jumping hurdles, only to find myself faced with more hurdles to defeat than less.
Here’s how a typical day goes:
I wake up upbeat, try to find solutions to my seemingly ever-present problems, discover more hurdles that are impossible to beat, get depressed and jump back into bed.
Life is easy going, filled with man-made obstacles.
It’s like a race where people are ahead of you, only instead of letting you complete the race in peace they keep booby trapping the road ahead of you.
How long can a person withstand being mistreated as a human-being and why does one put with it?
I keep thinking one day I’ll turn on the TV and find displayed on it’s crystal-clear screen the secret of life; why we were born and the reason we hold on through these heartbreaking turbulences. Or maybe hidden in the folds of an old book, forgotten with time, the reason why humans have to endure such suffering at the at the hands of other humans.
Instead, I sit like expired milk in the fridge, past my sell-by date and waiting for a burial in the trash. Finished and waiting.
Not knowing and waiting.
My new sounds:
In all honesty, I never really got what Ramadan was all about; is it about personal cleansing or experiencing the turmoil of the less fortunate through abstinence from food and soul impurities?
But to me, Ramadan was more than just eating, praying and loving (no copyright infringement intended, Elizabeth). Ramadan to me is about battle.
It is about battle of survival and battle of gaining self-respect.
My senses kick into overdrive, processing so much around me; sounds, lights, smells and emotions. Submerging me fully in the anxiety of it all, and I try so hard to stay afloat. I never think I’m good enough for this world anyway, but in Ramadan that feeling is multiplied by infinity.
Every waking second is judgement day and a horrendous nightmare. The disquietude of activity in my house, outside my room is palpable from behind the closed doors and it twists me in many unimaginable ways.
The interaction, the expectations and everything else that I feel is expected of me is soul crushing. I just want to cower under my desk and make it until the end alive, but it is not an option.
My brain keeps working, working, working and never stopping for a second to rest through the struggles. Then, it’s the end of Ramadan, and it’s Eid.
However, faster then a speeding bullet, a year passes, and it’s Ramadan again. And my brain picks up right where it left off again. Frantically putting up my battle shield to guard me from all the pain that resurfaces on this holy month, but it feels almost unholy.
Pain on the outside of my body is impossible that month, only on the inside. Like someone keeps stabbing at my inner self for thirty days. I’m supposed to be at peace, like the rest of the Muslim population. But it feels the exact opposite, the pressure’s too high.
The pressure’s just too high. But what pressure?